December 16, 2011
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Some thoughts just before the wedding...
(2 days before, to be exact. But I don't think i'll have time to blog tomorrow.)
I think I learned a lot from the wedding planning. Some friends are "better" and more "helpful" than the rest. You also get to see who the irresponsible or weird people are. People who make odd requests. People who change their minds every now and then. People who send you a wedding gift even though they can't make it to the wedding personally. Etc etc. And I think people never forget who's nice to them and who's not. So, I'll remember too.
I've been wanting the day to be over asap, but i'm also thinking about how fast time flew by. 25 years of my life gone in an instant. More than 1.5 years since his marriage proposal. A few more weeks to our true wedding anniversary. It's really unfortunate that our extended family can't spend more time together too. My cousin came back from canada for instance, but we probably won't have the chance to speak more than a few words. And even though my grandma has been here for around 2 weeks, I can't spend more time with her. The wedding (plus the numerous rounds of interviews) has zapped most of my time and energy away. It would really be better if we could all spend more time with each other.
Even my dad is flying here and there all the time. Not easy to spend time with him because he comes back late and I'm about to sleep, or I have to go here or there during the weekends when he's around. But thankfully I'm not migrating to europe or somewhere with my hubby, so we'll still be spending a lot of time with my family in future. One reason why I really dislike the traditional chinese customs is precisely because they emphasize on the bride leaving her family and gives weddings a really sad tone. In the older days, wives are only allowed to go back to her parents place once a year, on the second day of chinese new year. I don't like that bullshit. Seriously. I actually get really annoyed when people want me to follow certain traditions. Things like 'throwing the fan to the ground when I enter the groom's car so that my mum can pick it up" irritates me like CRAZY.
Alright.. I should calm down and not think about the negative things. I need a really good break!
